#Let'sTalk! [iDey#11]
Now let’s talk about SEX!
(yea, you heard me.), in one of my series chats with one of our bloggers, she
actually put the question through: “but is sex really important?” Well, I think
it’s more like asking: “is food really important for humans?” of course it is! Now I would like to keep the discourse
strictly for the adults; (that’s for our teens to leave the discussion room
please!), Guys (teens) you know the rules, but you can visit the 4Teens page on
this blog…there’s something really interesting for you there!
waiting…
Now that we are all adults, let’s get down to the matter:- Sex is very important. (I
will limit my references to the ‘legally married’ adults **my opinion* not
judging coz the singles too can also catch up a thing or two tho). Sex is
important in marriage; yes it is…**tho some think otherwise**. Now see this case
of Kate (not her real name): Kate believed that her husband demands too much
sex; ahhh! “Can that be possible?" one asks; and I was like: “it depends on why
you ask: 'can it be possible...' And he said to me: “Coz, I think couples should give
their body willingly to their partner, and there can never be too much of that!”
Hmmm…**thinking** but Kate here has a problem. She thinks her husband is asking
for too much!
I have had this kind of issues being treated over and again;
a woman can have a certain level of sexual desire. It could be that all she
needs is just “one good one”, once a week**if you know whatta mean**; but for the
guys, I’m sure they do need it about thrice…(for married only o *Lolz**)
So how do we compromise the two, in the two different scenarios;
like what if Kate’s husband was like the one above that feels differently? And
Kate’s psyche is in less demand of such excessive “pressure”?
Hmmm** There’s some argument there…
Well, no matter the direction of points of view, lack of
sex, or too much of it has proved an issue in most marriages. Most
surprisingly, it has broken some marriages. Really I will say “what a silly
thing to break a marriage”: but it’s happening! (Tho we still welcome the fact
that other external factors coming from outside to influence both parties
(independently) may be present :- (i.e the man has his external influences (and
so is the woman) that could affect their sexual desires to cause them to be unfaithful
to one another, regardless of their individual sexual desires…)
But nevertheless, the external influences can not have much
hold, if there are no existing disagreements (or differences) of sexual desires
between the both of them.
So how do we solve it?
As simple as it is, they should understand their needs just
like any other need between them; (leisure time, food likes, holidays, etc…) in
fact, sex is more important than all these (and that’s true) How do you mean it’s more important? If in the
course of having a prolonged disagreement (which could be traced to a bad sex
relationship), holidays or leisure times will not be so much fun after all! **can
I get a witness?**
Understanding the sexual needs (yes!) of your partner, is very
key.
inspiring
ReplyDeleteVery true!
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