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Dealing with infidelity: 

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A Young lady once asked me: “What is the cause of infidelity?”

Yea! It’s a very serious topic: Causal agent of about 88% of most marriage break ups, relationship failures, and love collapse. But there’s no way we can talk about infidelity without talking about sex, Yea. And such topics are for ADULTS ONLY; so let’s give room for our not too up-to-18 bloggers to log off from here…(our teen bloggers you can view our other pages on the site: **4Teens**, etc…) Let’s wait for you to log out guys….

waiting…

Okay now we are all adults here, let’s take this raging bull called infidelity by the horns!

First of all, what is infidelity? It’s simply defined as the act of not being faithful to your wife, husband, or partner…by having SEX with somebody else. Now when the young lady asked me the above (header) question, I at first thought it like every other question I’m asked daily on relationship matters, but something hit me when she asked with a passion different from what I usually receive…the passion was that of “but why do people do it when you already have someone?” The passion behind the “why” was what moved me, and it more or less gave me a new thinking into this element called infidelity: Why? Why? Why?

It’s obvious the main pressure for anyone to cheat on his/her partner comes from a thousand and one reasons. Some could be physical reasons, some psycho-mental, and some just mare uneasiness and lack of body+mind control. We may not be able to look at the causes in this post (Why?) Because here (in iDey4Lekki Blog) we don’t worry much about the causative agents of relationship problems; (Yea. because they’re too many) but we look at possible and probable solutions to problems **most have been tested and proved functional**

The first solution to solving infidelity in your relationship (to our utmost experience) is to ‘flood’ your partner’s sexual desire with satisfaction.

How?

Well, infidelity starts like the hunger for a different kind of food. Like for instance if I like a certain flavour of Ice cream, it may by reason of “seeing” another kind of flavour, human instincts will oblige me to want to eat this other kind of flavour, which I may not have tasted before. Instinct for sex is almost like this. But it shouldn't be. Like for instance in a relationship that has lasted for a while, if the sexual flavour is not continuously stirred up (by being creative, yea, I use the word ‘creative’ coz you need to be!), the chances are that your partner will mostly by instinct (and lack of ability of self body+mind control in most cases) wish to “taste” another kind of “flavour’. This is no justification anyway to those that have fallen for such weaknesses, but it’s an inevitable reason for infidelity (and we include the fact that this inability to control our desires for just one person can be, and is also triggered mostly by external factors, external factors being the pressure from the outside world upon we vulnerable individuals to want even things that are not needful!)

But nevertheless, whether the cause is internal (psycho-mental) or external (psycho-visual) the solution can be addressed. Firstly, for the ladies (coz’ they are the ones that surfer the most under this spell called infidelity) know this, and it may help you: DEAL with your partner’s “internal satisfaction” of “you” when matters come to sex and sexual desires (Yes! Don’t be too religious about this, if you are too religious, a not-too-religious person out there **and there are many of them out there** would address the matter for you, and we don’t want that!) Deal with your partner’s internal sexual satisfaction. Internal satisfaction I call it, because your partner will firstly fill his heart with thoughts of you before he can yield totally to you completely (FACT). Always fine tune his mental sexual forefront to yield to you, and you always.

How can I do this?

For instance (I will be a little practical here though, I guess we are all adults here); For the ladies, don’t beat down on your partner’s needs when it comes to matters of sex. Take it seriously. Be innovative. Be creative. Take it serious because a lot of its success depends on the life and joy of your relationship! When alone with him, be very sensual, like if you’re indoors with him, let your sensuality show forth to him (men deal mostly by what they see) Buy new lingerie, and the likes, and wear them when he least expects to see you wear them. Be very free with your sexuality. A slight hindrance of your sensuality towards him can spell doom: a whole length of I-want-another-flavour (coming from him) to the outside world (I guess you know what that means). Men are like babies (forget the money, beards, a gruffy voice, cars, etc); They are like children; children don’t know what they want until you “guide” them to a right source. That’s why when guys see a lady with a big backside, they want that! When they see another with not so big backside, they want that too! Let your man think and imagine your own backside everyday! Fill his mind with it! Yea. Truth be told! Because it’s a fight (so to speak), coz’ there’re lots of other people (ladies) out there that wake up daily, to make up new schemes on how to steal men away from their brides! (Yes! it’s happening!) So take it serious. Win your man’s psycho-mental alertness for your sensuality…and this is a daily affair (I believe you can innovate more ways apart from what is stated here); Men’s psycho-visual alertness (simulation by what they see) is triggered off by their psycho-mental alertness. So work on the psycho-mental; when you capture the psycho-mental through psycho-visual, he’s all yours! **I guess you know what I mean**

Then for the men, how do I prevent my lady from cheating on me? Hmmm. Easy, but it can be difficult if not arraigned with skill. Firstly, pardon me to say: Guys, you ought not really need to taste all waters you know? Your lady got it all! (Yea, she does even though I’ve not seen her but I know she does). How can a man prevent her lady from cheating? Well for women, their psycho-mental alertness rises from a whole different cause than that of men. A lady’s satisfaction and maneuvering can be quick and sharp. Hence a lady that loves you (soo much) and will never think of cheating, could still cheat (by mistake) when she’s under a certain level of pressure by a ravenous male **and there are many ravenous males out there believe me**

Like for instance, a lady can be easily seduced by a co-worker, a friend, a business partner etc, because her psycho-mental attributes is not just only connected to her psycho-visual (what she sees) but mostly by what she feels. Hmmm** This can be tough to deal with. Because a woman’s feelings can change like the weather at any giving time (yea. Like she could remember you frowned at her in the morning, and because of that cheat on you! It happens like that!) That shows you how delicate it can be. But nevertheless, cheer up guys, you can still prevent her (totally) from cheating, by making her yield her psycho-neurons alertness to no one else but you, no matter where or how the external wolf (yea, they are wolves) tries to pressurize her to go against her will…yes!

How can this be done?

For you guys…I won’t say much but those three letters that say: TLC! Yea. Tender Loving Care for your woman, will keep her on your side. If you love her (and you should) Show her these three...indoors, outdoors, in the kitchen. In the bathroom, etc, and she will “programme” her psycho-neurons to yield to you for life.

And lest I forget, Bro, you just gotta know how to work it in bed (don’t be too religious about this believe me) if you will need medical assistance to get you working it in bed, you better do! Or else a not-too-religious dude out there **and there are plenty of them out there I can assure you** will work it for you, and we don’t want that!

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