#Let'sTalk! [iDey#8]

What do we all seek in every relationship? Love, joy, romance, peace? The truth is all these don’t come in a “starter pack”! First and foremost for a relationship to thrive is Love, Love can not be bought, can not be begged for, can not be bribed for (like in offering of sex, money, or other things) love is from the inside. Most people crave for the outside person (“Oh! She’s soo cute, nice legs, he got nice biceps, and nice smile, so tall etc”) but no! That’s like buying a good looking car with a bad (or unconfirmed engine!) Love is built. But first of all there must be the foundations….How do I know he loves me? Simple…what are his main concerns about you? Sex? Your beauty? Your Body? How do I know she loves me? What are her main concerns about you? Your money? Your reputation? She wants to escape from a substantial challenge? None of these proves love. Sad we live in a world of today that disregards (or relegates (keeps) the real love at the background) So what then? How do I know if he or she is truly in-love with me? Well, It’s not rocket science, but it’s a kind of science tho…it is a variation of different personalities, a distinction between peoples and persons, Love starts from the inside, you can see it in the “eyes” (Yea! The eye is the window to the soul) You can see it in his or her relativity to your person, or your personality. If she loves you truly (and most women do love their men tho) first things first, she will show it to you (but there are many misconceptions to this, because she may want you to “prove” it) Yes a man should prove it to her lady that he loves her too, how does this happen, he too has to reciprocate by making her feel secured. I have a litmus test to prove if he loves her, or she loves him. The first test is the ‘no sex policy’ (sounds weird eh?) Yea…keep sex away from the whole concept of the relationship for a time, and time again. If he loves her he wouldn't delve into the demand for sex right away! If he does within the first weeks, Ah! It’s most probable that he doesn’t love you dear, it’s all about the sex for him. Hey! What about the ladies? How do I know she loves me too? What’s the litmus test for that? Well, same too, if she comes up front with much demand from you “immediately”, then Oh boy! It’s obvious, there aren't no love for you, it’s all about the money. See it like this, like you both are two 8-10 year olds in love, 8-10 year olds (kids) will relate to each other without hindrances (I use my relationship with my childhood sweetheart always as a base foundation even though **Lolz* and it has never proved wrong!). When in a relationship we begin to bring in our adult mindset to the table (like: “Oh! Let me sleep with her before she takes my money and run away, or “Hmmm? Let me grab some dough from him and make a run for it!”) Then we aren't working in love! If it is love you want from him or her, SHOW IT! Don’t steal it, or take it by force. Love is from the inside. Remember: Keep eye contact (my secret), you will most see if he or she loves you in the eyes….over time.

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