#5 Relationship Myths:
There
are several types of relationships that exist among human beings. Family
relationships, romantic relationships, parental relationships, marital
relationships, extramarital relationships (etc), are few among them. Being in a
relationship is an added responsibility and obligation, as the success of any
relationship is the collective result of the attitudes, behavioral patterns and
personal preferences of the two or more people included in the relationship. But
amidst all these ideologies, when we most want to get into a relationship anew,
there are always several conceptions we have in mind, conceptions of bliss, and
comfort of how the relationship will (or may) turn out to be in the long run.
Some of these conceptions (or most of these conceptions) are regarded as
relationship myths, myths they are called - because we usually believe them to
be true, but most times they are not quite so in the reality...
Let
us explore 5 (there are more) of such commonly held relationship myths:
1. That there is a Soul Mate or True Love for Every Person.
1. That there is a Soul Mate or True Love for Every Person.
It is an obvious myth and also a mistake to believe that
each and every person has a true love or soul mate. You get into relationship
with a person not because he/she is the one and only person who fits your
requirements and matches your mind. The person is just one among many of
similar type. It is because you met him/her at the right time and place, that you
are in relationship with the person. If you were born to a different region on
earth, you might see another person matching your mind and have got into
relationship with him/her.
Many people hold the belief that similar personalities
and mindsets attract each other and force them into relationships. But it is a
myth and wrong notion. It is not the mentality or personality that attracts
people. No one is similar in the world as individuality is the most significant
aspect of human life. People who go hand in hand in certain aspects may differ
in other elements. For example, people who like the same food may differ in their
political mentalities. Similarity is just a vague concept. If two people are
ideal for all their attitudes and aspects, then the concept of individuality
could be considered meaningless.
It is another relationship myth that people consider love
as the whole of every relationship. Relationships can start from mere
attraction and cherish and flourish with love. But love is not the whole of any
relationship. There are many other aspects like responsibilities, obligations,
adjustments, dedication, sacrifice etc., to live in long term relationships.
Temperament, tolerance, humility etc., are also important in relationships. But
love essentially is the background to all such qualities.
Sex and satisfying physical needs help fostering
relationships, but believing that sex is essential factor of every relationship
is a wrong concept. Relationships are much more than mere physical requirements
and satisfaction. The mental oneness and emotional attachment is always
required in a relationship and sex is only one of the ways of attaining it. Even
without sexual activities two people can remain in long term relationships and
extract the happiness and satisfaction from it. Thinking that sex is everything
in a relationship may damage the intensity as both the partners may not always
be prepared or interested in sexual activities.
It is another relationship myth to think that the perfect
cure for a breakup is getting into another relationship in no time. Nah!
Experts say that one has to find time to be alone after the breakup to analyze
the reasons of the breakup and also to find the ways of not repeating the
mistakes in future relationships. Sometimes, the reasons for breakup would be
lying underneath the person himself/herself. Getting into another relationship
without mending the issue or changing the attitude may result in another
breakup. This it is always advised to take time to get into another
relationship soon after a breakup. Newer relationships are not at all a cure
for a breakup.
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