#Let'sTalk! [iDey#13]

A young blood sent me an email once: The email read: “Dear Lekki, I met this lady online sometime ago **Badoo to be precise** she was cool and all that, but circumstances have made us we have not been able to meet in person for 'most a year now; but we have been so close online, on chats, on whatsapp, on phone, I mean, we are actually dating very seriously online. But my question is: when we eventually meet, are we still strangers?”

- YoungBlood, Kenya.

Very good question ‘young blood’. Well, it’s quite strange how technology has bridged the gap of how easy it can be these days to meet people ‘online’. I had this case once of a sister that met a bro online. She was in love with this guy, and she felt like jumping the cliffs for this love; but there was a problem, the bro was postponing the ‘meeting’ in person of their two, till alas, the bro vanished into thin air, and the sister didn't have the opportunity to “meet” this dude she was madly in love with. She then contacted me, to find out what to do. My advice then to her was: "Just continue with your normal life, and see it like what you've been through was just A TEST of your ‘abilities to love someone’". Why did I call it a test of abilities? Well, the truth remains you were in love with thin air! Yea! **my mean face**; why did I call it “thin air”? Because you were in love with someone you've not met…what’s the difference with thin air?

For you ‘Young Blood’, I believe that your true relationship/engagement with that person begins at the point of your meeting the person one-on-one. Yes! Everything before then was a prelude, a delusion, a mirage. Why’s it a delusion, a mirage? Because you actually begin your realistic date with that person at point of meeting (yea, I know you both must have talked a whole length on the phone, shared all available secrets, and all-what-not over time, but the true relationship starts at the point of meeting.

Take this another instance for example; Another friend of mine, this time my close pal, he met a lady online (yea, I saw her photo she’s was awesomely beautiful) but the much we could see was her portrait images, and portrait selfies all through; we never for once got to see a full photo of her; and my friend didn’t really bother, he communicated with this lady for over 4 months. Then one fateful day, they arranged a meeting at a certain venue. On the day of the meeting my friend sent another friend of his to go forth before him and spy on the lady (who is already at the venue of their meeting waiting for him); The spy friend went about his duty, and discovered that the lady was not so good with her legs, as a matter of fact she was paralytic. So the information came back to my friend, that his date (waiting for him at the pre-arranged venue) was available at the venue, gorgeously looking (on hearing these two words: “gorgeously looking”) my friend dashed off in joy to go meet his date….but before he could run-off, the spy friend said:”Wait! But I saw that…that…she’s umm…paralytic!”

Oh!

Paralysed? My friend paused; he froze at his heels; You could see Total dismay written all over his face….he became pale with downcast, as a matter of fact I stood no other option but to console (and encourage) him with some divine words…saying: "Do not be dismayed…and do not be confounded…Go! And embrace your date!”

But before I could finish and turn back to face front, my friend was already on the next bus running away from the venue!

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