#LetsTalk! [iDey#17]
Women are sensitive and posses
fragile emotional levels. What many men consider to be a joke may lead women to
blasting expressions. Especially when they are angry or depressed, men need to
be cautious to talk to them or even approach them. Dealing with an arguing or
fighting woman is intimidating for most of the men. They wait to cling on to
your most innocent jokes and the simplest expressions of humor. There are
certain things a man should never tell a woman during “fights”.
What comes out
so spontaneously may turn explosive at such instances:
1. Never ever say “relax”:
- The
word relax is a forbidden phrase in fight. By asking her to relax, you are
indirectly indicating that she is out of mood and out of control, while
she thinks that she is really serious on what she is trying to prove.
- Many
men ask the question, are you mad? This is also equally detrimental to ask
a fighting woman. Never try to prove that you are ok and the lady is
abnormal. Do not even hint that she is talking nonsense, even if you are
right to say so. Anything that puts them down during the fight will be
resisted with utmost sense of defense.
2. No expressions of love or sex:
- Telling
'I love you', or 'can I kiss you' type of expressions are forbidden in a
fight. The immediate answer will be a denial and it will only help to
prolong the fight. Woman may consider the expressions as a way to divert
her attention and trying to play with her emotions.
- Do
not even ask 'how do you want it tonight' questions. Direct mentioning of
sex during a fight may worsen the condition than ever. Sex is not a source
of calming down for women; they enjoy it when they are already “calmed
down”!
3. Avoid words that would hint her past life:
- Mentioning
her ex-boyfriends or ex-husband while you ‘fight’ may make her angrier. If
you really wish to put an end to the fight in the most peaceful way
possible, then keep mum even if she blasts at you about your past
relationships.
- Never
ask her 'how many men have you slept with'. It just irritates the woman
and she may go to unexpected extents of anger and hatred. She may consider
the expressions as a trick to humiliate her or belittle her by remembering
her of the past life.
4. Do not go on apologizing:
- Apologizing
with a fighting woman many times bring back the negative results. When the
man apologizes she may just jump into the conclusion that he is mistaken
not her. Silence or less-hurting arguments are better to calm down an
angry woman.
- Do
not admit all the mistakes at the first instance, which you may think may
put an end to the issue. But the woman may feast on your sentiments and
put you down to the soil. Try as much to defend your arguments in the
mildest possible way.
5. Do not pretend as if you did not
pay attention:
- Asking
that 'what did you say? I didn't listen', question is a big “no-no” in
fighting. When you ask this it gives a hint that you consider her talks as
unimportant and not worthy to be listened. Even if you didn't listen, she
is not gonna repeat it to you.
- Trying
to divert her attention to some other things may make her furious. Just
pretend as if she says wonderful things and you listen and understand each
word of it. With your body language and gestures, just convey that you are
grasping what she says.
- Fights
are not occasions to impose your ideas, thoughts, demands and desires on
the other person. Fights are, in fact, uncontrolled moments in life and if
people do not learn to deal with such situations in most mature way, the love-life
of most can be hell and relationships so unstable. Fights are not times of
communication; what happen in a fight are thoughtless expressions of anger
and frustrations.
Lolz**
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