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“Anytime I go downstairs to make something for myself, I always make food for my husband”

- (Tiwa Savage on pulse TV Interview)

Hold on. Let’s rewind…back to the beginning. TJ (TeeBillz - Tiwa's husband) said: “my wife has not cooked for me for 3 years”; and here we hear (his wife) saying: 'I only make food (for him) when I feel like going downstairs to make food FOR MYSELF'…

C’mon!

Even though we criticize the men ALWAYS in a ‘wive-husband-separation’ issue, let us take some time-out to look at the truth sometimes: I believe the Number 1 objective of a wife is to satisfy and take care of her family (which her husband is paramount – because she (the wife) BEGINS the family with him, and him only). A wife should put her husband’s needs first before anything else. Yes; it is understandable, whereby having wealth can make you be able to pay for a cook (as she (Tiwa) claims) and all that, but it doesn’t take the place of you (his wife) taking your rightful position and taking care of your husband at all times.

From research, it has been proven that 85% of cheating men do it because of some level of “dis-satisfaction” towards their wives. (Yes. sometimes men can be over demanding, but well, that’s what love got to do…but with time they tend to balance up!) “Men can be ‘insatiable’”, some women will claim; Hence “even when you give them everything, they will still run outside…” many will say again.

I disagree with the above statement.

Why? Because men are like that ‘stubborn babies’ they have been since childhood. The boys we have as kids, they act (and are) the same as the men women deal with today. If you give a man what he wants, (and be consistent with it) with time, it will “reshape” his mentalities, and bring him to an understanding that he usually tells himself: “this is good for me”, and most of the most times, he sticks to it. 

The problem is in the consistency (or ‘inconsistency’) of the distribution (so to speak) of what a wive should give to her husband; (yes, it's true, some men can be difficult "to balance up", well, that's what love got to do with it...and the wive has the job to do it...It's marriage!) Unfortunately, some women lack patience in seeing an obvious result from the man, and when this is not forth coming (soon, or immediately – which it never does come so soon, but over time), the woman will lack optimism. (This is a common case in early marriage separations – separations within the first 5 years).

So what then? If it happens to be that it is only when you “feel like” making food, is when you make food for your husband, then…Hmmm** Tiwa, Tiwa, I think you got it all wrong on that one!

Another thing (please, please, please) folks, stop going out there (so fast) to tell people what’s going wrong in your home!!!! No, No, No! STOP!

Like a native saying goes: “you don’t go out telling everyone how you washed your bum….” Lolz** But as true as it is, it’s same thing in marriage. You paid for the bills, you feed him, you wash his dirty linens, etc, everything that happens, happened INSIDE A COVERING called MARRIAGE. It should not be exposed. No! No! No! If everyone (great and small today) were to come and tell you everything that happened (and it’s still happening) in their marriages, you may or may not believe.

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