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What love got to do with it… (Part 2): 

Love really is about trust. But unfortunately, love, today means several things to several people: Some see love as a pick up line; some see it as a game, some as a business, and some as a 'business partnership'. But I can remember a short story my uncle once told me: about how love was expressed by folks in the ‘olden days’. He said the groom to be (or any man who had an interest in a lady for courtship and probably marriage) all he would need do is present to his damsel, his lady: a piece of soap, and a coconut - and that’s all he would need do; then the lady will take the gifts to her mother who would in turn present them to the girl’s father to inform him that someone was asking for his daughter’s hand in marriage.

A soap and a coconut.

It’s very obvious and true that if this would be done today (that is, if a promising young man of today would do just that) he may be blessed to escape with his head intact from being broken with the coconut by the enraged damsel!

But why’s that? Why’s love mis-spelt today: present-day? What happened to the ol’school kind of love? There’s no school like ‘the Old school’ as a saying goes, for there was this short story my uncle once told me, about how people expressed their love for their spouses in the 60’s. According to him there has never been any cooler generation like the 60’s. And I concur! **for though they may not have had super techs like ipads, robotdogs, and post selfies all up on instagram, and facebook, but they still were really cool**

Why do I agree so easily? Well, back then things where really done the “boogie-down-style”, even though the wigs were very large and round, and the shoes a bit high heeled, still the love-realm reigned ‘original’: No Adulterations, No “artificial colorings”.

My uncle told me once that “Love starts and begins from the soul, that the heart is different from the soul: The heart responds, the soul reflects. Love becomes original when it reflects what comes from the inside. And love must be a two way traffic…” “Remember…” he told me: “For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction…true and genuine reciprocated love acts the same way too. Most of us who have experienced this level of love-realm will concur that real and true love, comes from depths, and inner depths of kindness, depths of limitless generosity, sacrifice, and truthfulness (which is also faithfulness) and trust”. 

All these, are mostly reflected like an equal and opposite reaction by the counter-acts of those who share amongst themselves: genuine and reciprocated love. Hence, we continue to strive to show better kindness, make more sacrifices, for (and to) our loved one(s) and this continues to bounce back as a reflection of true affection (and an inner satisfaction) that never ends. It acts like a dynamo, for as long as you keep at it, you can’t get tired of it:- loving someone you truly and genuinely love. 

It goes beyond the Eros. It’s a like a combination of all the four kinds of love. It's divine, it's original. It's real.

As a final clue, (a clue that may help keep the fire of love between couples burning till the end; He then said to me: “how we did it back then was, we always strove to show more love even in the most little things; because its reflection is what you get back: Genuine Love...”

I believe there’s much truth to these sayings, for time is truly the yardstick of measuring genuine love...

#King

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