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SIGNS OF AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP:

Are you in an abusive relationship which affects your freedom, curtails your independence and spoils the entire happiness of your life? Well, I think we have something for you here.

Many people go on moving ahead with abusive partners as they misunderstand the abusive behavior of their partners, or confuse such acts to be mere possessiveness, extra care or over affection. But it is, in fact, an abnormality, and if not realized on time and mended in the way it should be, abusive behavior can spoil your relationship and affect the entire peaceful atmosphere of your life itself.

Certain people misconceive abusiveness as physical attack or dominance. But in fact, abuse can be emotional, psychological, financial, sexual or physical. Psychologists reveal that many a time, abusive behavior is the result of imbalanced or unstable mentalities of the partner. When he/she takes control over the partner or tries to express the affection excessively, it may become abusive. Abusive relationships are unhealthy and destructive for both the partners in every relationship.

Anyways, let’s explore a few certain visible signs of abusive relationships:

 

Being Over Possessive:

Being over possessive is the most obvious sign of an abusive partner. Possessiveness is an essential part of every relationship and it is a must-to-have factor of relationships. But in certain cases, the partner may become excessively possessive, even to the extent of obstructing the freedom and forgetting the dignity of the partner. An over possessive partner may keep the track of your time and demand you to inform each and every movement of yours. In the modern world every human person, male or female, may need to interact with many people and move around many places. If the partner insists you to inform or get permission from him/her to do everything in life, then it's a kind of abuse. They may try to cut off all your social contacts and restrict you to even meet your friends and relatives.

 

Frequently Accusing:

If your partner accuses you for every ill-happening (assumed or presumed), then he/she is exhibiting the sign of abusive relationship. They may always look you through the glasses of suspicion and may not let you take your own decisions. Many a times, the accusing may occur because of abnormal levels of affection and the partner is afraid or doubtful of your ability to perform certain actions, or lack of TRUST. Whenever something goes wrong, he/she may assume that it is because of your inabilities.

 

Multiple Affairs:

Having multiple affairs and being unfaithful to your partner, is definitely abusive. Relationships mean mutual respect, understanding and faithfulness. A person in true relationship should consider the partner as (not just one among many) but the 'one-and-only' person in his/her life. Having multiple affairs may make a person less committed and less affectionate.

 

Improper Criticism and Public Teasing:

It is been observed that abusive people may criticize improperly with a mind to demean the partner, or at times, out of 'superiority-complexities' which may arise within and without that partner. When somebody criticizes the partner unnecessarily, or teases the person before friends or strangers, then he/she is trying to implement the authority over the person in the most undesirable way. This is an obvious sign of abusive relationship.

 

Physical Abuses:

Physical abuses like slapping, hitting, threatening etc; are most visible signs of improper relationship. People get into relationships not to be controlled over or dominated over. Instead for loving, caring and sharing. If any partner gets into physical threatening, then the relationship is to be ended. No one (even your life partner) has rights over a person to abuse him/her physically. When a person gets into such activities, it is to be taken seriously and retained from such relationships at the earliest possible opportunity.

 

Sexual Abuses:

Many people suffer from sexual abuses in relationships. Sex is not the aim of relationships, but only a means to attain happiness in relationships. The advised mode of sex is that which gives happiness and satisfaction mutually. Many people get into the concept that “any kind” of sexual activity is accepted in relationships. Many a time women become preys of weird fantasy of male partners. Everything sexual activity is accepted in relationships provided both the partners enjoy it. What is against this is abuse and to be resisted and/or avoided.

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