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(10 Ways to WIN your Lady’s Heart)
Disclaimer: This is not intended for the guy who wants a one-night
stand. No! There are books like “The Game” and “The Players Handbook” which can
give you great techniques to hook up and end up with an empty life and a roster
of regrets. If you want the most beautiful girl in the world on the outside and
inside, a girl you would be proud to show off to all of your friends AND
family, and a girl to build the foundation of a full life together, then “10
Ways to Win a Lady’s Heart” is for you: -
By @HarryDavids:
1. Be pursuant:
Pursue her without pressure. In other words, don’t try to “front” and be cocky.
Have a conversation first and show her you are interested beyond her
appearance. You don’t have to come up with some crazy pickup line. You can
simply say, “I want to introduce myself…” Be sincere and genuine in wanting to
get to know her. I see too many good guys get intimidated by a girl’s beauty up
front, but take a closer look, and find her true self. Honestly, if you can get
past this, you’ll have a good head start; after all, being genuine is where you
excel the most. This is why you are the good guy!
2. Be a gentleman:
Lady’s (most times) don’t want to be treated like a queen, but they do want to be treated like a princess. She doesn’t want you to be a doormat, she wants you to be the one in charge. Open every door for her, especially the car door. Pull out her chair and allow her to sit down first when you take her on a date, and let her order first. When you are walking alongside the street, you should be the one walking closest to the street. Being a gentleman is being selfless.
Lady’s (most times) don’t want to be treated like a queen, but they do want to be treated like a princess. She doesn’t want you to be a doormat, she wants you to be the one in charge. Open every door for her, especially the car door. Pull out her chair and allow her to sit down first when you take her on a date, and let her order first. When you are walking alongside the street, you should be the one walking closest to the street. Being a gentleman is being selfless.
3. Be complimentary:
On our first date, I told her “You look so beautiful.” I then told her how great she looked when I saw her without makeup the night before. It was real and sincere. While she later revealed to me that she had been testing me to see if I would still like her without makeup, I simply saw a lady who didn’t have enough time because she just got done at the gym. That was incredibly attractive to me.
On our first date, I told her “You look so beautiful.” I then told her how great she looked when I saw her without makeup the night before. It was real and sincere. While she later revealed to me that she had been testing me to see if I would still like her without makeup, I simply saw a lady who didn’t have enough time because she just got done at the gym. That was incredibly attractive to me.
4. Be creative:
You don’t have to blow your bank account to impress her. Think outside the box. I’ve been watching one of my good buds Danny pursue his girl right. [Update: Danny Booko is now engaged to Nia, the current Miss USA 2014.] He took her on a hike inMalibu , CA
You don’t have to blow your bank account to impress her. Think outside the box. I’ve been watching one of my good buds Danny pursue his girl right. [Update: Danny Booko is now engaged to Nia, the current Miss USA 2014.] He took her on a hike in
5. Be intentional:
Invite her to parties, events, and game nights with your friends. I called Kristen every day when I finally got her number. I sent her encouraging text messages and inspirational Bible verses. I told her I wanted to be her man on our fifth date. She wasn’t ready, but she knew what I wanted. I gave her the time she needed with no stipulations, while still pursuing her intentionally. She told me she loved that.
Invite her to parties, events, and game nights with your friends. I called Kristen every day when I finally got her number. I sent her encouraging text messages and inspirational Bible verses. I told her I wanted to be her man on our fifth date. She wasn’t ready, but she knew what I wanted. I gave her the time she needed with no stipulations, while still pursuing her intentionally. She told me she loved that.
6. Speak well of her in front of other people:
Hold her hand. Pick-up artists recommend saying “backhanded compliments”, but nothing beats a genuine and sincere compliment. A backhanded compliment might work for a one-night stand, but come on, this is a poisonous ingredient when in a long-term relationship. Treat her just as kindly in front of friends and family as you do when you are alone.
Hold her hand. Pick-up artists recommend saying “backhanded compliments”, but nothing beats a genuine and sincere compliment. A backhanded compliment might work for a one-night stand, but come on, this is a poisonous ingredient when in a long-term relationship. Treat her just as kindly in front of friends and family as you do when you are alone.
7. Be attentive:
Show her that you care for her and her needs. Pay attention to the small details. Ladies care about the small stuff, big time. For instance, on our first date, I knew Kristen was a vegetarian, so I took her to a vegetarian restaurant called Café Gratitude. Listen to what she has to say.
Show her that you care for her and her needs. Pay attention to the small details. Ladies care about the small stuff, big time. For instance, on our first date, I knew Kristen was a vegetarian, so I took her to a vegetarian restaurant called Café Gratitude. Listen to what she has to say.
8. Be protective:
Don’t let her walk alone to her car. If she’s going on a jog or walk at night, tell her you want to go to keep her safe. If she’s going to the gas station at night, go with her. If you’re at a club and she needs to go to the restroom, take her there and wait outside the door.
Don’t let her walk alone to her car. If she’s going on a jog or walk at night, tell her you want to go to keep her safe. If she’s going to the gas station at night, go with her. If you’re at a club and she needs to go to the restroom, take her there and wait outside the door.
9. Be a good listener:
Ask solid open-ended questions that include “what,” “how,” and “why.” If you’re doing most of the talking, you’re not getting very far with her. Show her you care with body language and by repeating back some of what she just told you (it helps***)
Ask solid open-ended questions that include “what,” “how,” and “why.” If you’re doing most of the talking, you’re not getting very far with her. Show her you care with body language and by repeating back some of what she just told you (it helps***)
10. Be romantic:
Plan ahead. What do you want your love story to be? You are the writer. When people ask where your first kiss was, you don’t want her to answer “it was at the driveway” or that “you were drunk at a party”. The night I kissed Kristen for the first time, I wanted it to be special. I took her to an overlook onMulholland Drive
Plan ahead. What do you want your love story to be? You are the writer. When people ask where your first kiss was, you don’t want her to answer “it was at the driveway” or that “you were drunk at a party”. The night I kissed Kristen for the first time, I wanted it to be special. I took her to an overlook on
Finally, be yourself. There won’t be much longevity if she’s fallen for a
false persona, and why would you want that anyway? I’ve come to terms
with the fact that I’m not the coolest guy out there, so I have fun in my
dorkiness. There is no one else like you, so be confident. When you are walking
in truth, game isn’t necessary. You’ve already won.
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